The way we communicate deeply impacts our relationships, self-esteem, and emotional well-being. Developing healthier communication skills starts with awareness.
5 Common Communication Styles:
- Assertive (the goal): Honest, respectful, and clear.
- Passive: Avoids conflict, suppresses needs.
- Aggressive: Prioritizes control, disregards others’ feelings.
- Passive-Aggressive: Expresses negativity indirectly.
- Manipulative: Seeks control through deceit or guilt.
Which style do you resonate with most? Awareness is the first step toward positive change!
Shifting Toward Healthier Communication
Communication habits often stem from past wounds or fear of conflict. With practice, you can shift toward more effective and compassionate interactions:
- From passive to assertive: If you struggle to express your needs, start small. Practice stating preferences in low-stakes situations, like choosing where to eat. Use “I” statements, such as “I would like to…” to communicate needs clearly. Over time, build confidence in advocating for yourself.
- From aggressive to calm: If you tend to react with intensity, practice pausing before responding. Take deep breaths and check in with your emotions. Use “I” statements instead of accusatory language, such as “I feel frustrated when…” instead of “You always…”. This encourages open dialogue rather than defensiveness.
- From passive-aggressive to direct: If you express frustration indirectly, work on recognizing underlying emotions. Instead of making sarcastic remarks or withdrawing, try openly stating your needs. For example, replace “I guess I’ll just do it myself” with “I would appreciate your help with this task.” Directness fosters trust and reduces misunderstandings.
- From manipulative to honest: If you find yourself trying to control outcomes through guilt or deception, practice trusting that your needs are valid on their own. Instead of saying, “If you cared, you would…” try, “I feel hurt when this happens, and I need…” Honest communication strengthens relationships and self-respect.
Embrace Growth with Self-Compassion
Change takes time, and growth begins with self-awareness and self-kindness. At Holistic Psychotherapy NYC, we help clients build healthier communication skills, set boundaries, and foster deeper connections.
Ready to transform the way you communicate? Our therapists are here to support you! Reach out to learn more about our holistic approach to mental wellness.
