Have you ever wondered why you react a certain way in relationships? Why some people feel secure in love while others struggle with trust, anxiety, or emotional distance? The answer often lies in attachment theory—a psychological framework that helps us understand how early relationships shape our adult connections.
At Holistic Psychotherapy NYC, we use attachment theory to help clients recognize relationship patterns, improve communication, and build healthier connections. Whether you’re struggling with intimacy, trust, or emotional regulation, understanding your attachment style is a powerful step toward healing.
The Four Attachment Styles
Attachment styles develop in childhood and influence how we relate to romantic partners, friends, and even colleagues. Here’s a breakdown of the four main types:
- Secure Attachment – Feels comfortable with intimacy and independence, trusts easily, and maintains balanced relationships.
- Anxious Attachment – Often worries about rejection, craves closeness, and seeks frequent reassurance in relationships.
- Avoidant Attachment – Values independence, struggles with emotional intimacy, and may push others away to maintain control.
- Disorganized Attachment – A mix of anxious and avoidant behaviors, often stemming from past trauma or inconsistent caregiving.
How Attachment Theory Supports Therapy
Once you understand your attachment style, you gain insight into how you connect with others. This awareness can:
- Identify Relationship Patterns – Recognizing how past experiences shape your behavior helps break unhealthy cycles.
- Improve Communication & Emotional Regulation – Therapy teaches tools to express needs and emotions more effectively.
- Guide You Toward Healthier Connections – Healing attachment wounds allows you to cultivate relationships built on trust, respect, and security.
Healing & Growth Through Therapy
No matter your attachment style, change is possible. Through holistic psychotherapy, we help you explore your relationship patterns, reprocess past experiences, and develop healthier ways of connecting with yourself and others.
If you’re ready to deepen your self-awareness and create more fulfilling relationships, we’re here to support you.
Interested in working with a therapist who uses attachment theory in their work? Check out some of their profiles below:
